Thursday, 21 March 2013

ERMMMMM TRUE LOVE? DOES THAT STILL EXIST?



 These days I've been thinking so much about love. Does true love still exist? Sorry to burst your bubbles, I know I can be very mushy sometimes but I didn't mean that kind of boy-girl 'Eros' love you were thinking about, I meant the Philo and agape kind of love, unconditional love. I've seen so many things lately that makes me wonder if true, pure and undiluted love still exist in our relationships, families, churches and society? 

The word ‘love’ has been bastardised, these days when someone says ‘I love you’, you really have to double check to make sure they really mean it. The same applies to Christian folks in the church, when the choir raises a song like ‘Hold somebody, tell them that you love them, put your hands together and praise the Lord’... Everyone gets excited, grab their neighbours hands, swing and dance along but deep within, many are guilty of two sins. Sin number 1, lying! Sin 2, hypocrisy! Why tell someone you can’t tolerate ‘I love you’ just because the song says so? Why pretend to be cool with someone when behind their backs you are ready and very willing to devour them with your tongue? (Sometimes I’m guilty of this too but thank God for the Holy Spirit who knows how to chastise those he loves when they step out of line.)
            
Loving others isn't an easy task, I guess that is why it is the 2nd most important commandment God gave. It’s very easy to love those who love you but we all know how frustrating it can be to love those who keep getting on our nerves. Personally I do my best and find it quite easy to love everyone around me but the hard work comes when you have to show love to those who will take your love for granted, rub it in filth and then throw back in your face.  The experience isn't really a nice one but I never learn my lessons, lol, before you know it, I'm loving again. I can't really change that about me.
                                                                                 
Anyways while I was thinking, I realised that the reason why pure love seems to be going extinct in our world today is because many people don’t really love themselves and as a result they find it really difficult to love to others. The big book says ‘Love your neighbour as yourself’. If you don’t love yourself how are you supposed to know how to love others? If you don’t appreciate yourself, it will be difficult to appreciate the good things in other people! Loving yourself, your state and estate is the first step to loving other people. If you are comfortable with whom you are and the position God has placed you, you will find it easy to love and relate with others without secret hatred, grudges and hypocrisy.
                                               
Another reason why I feel true love is ‘scarce’ in our society is because many people show love with selfish desires, they love for what they would get in return and some who love do it as frequently as we celebrate Christmas. As Christians this shouldn't be, our love shouldn't be conditional, we are supposed to be Christ-like!. Christ showed us love when were very irritating and dirty, he died for us while we were sinners. Imagine if Christ had waited for you to love him before dying on the cross for you? We didn’t deserve His love yet he showed us love and still continues to show us unfailing love!
            
So back to my question, does true love still exist? Ermmmm, what do you think?  I believe even if true love doesn’t exist in your own little world, you have all it takes to show and experience true love.  The bible says in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-6 “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”    To experience true love, start by loving yourself and then start showing love to others without selfish and hidden agendas. Go all the way to show love and care to people without expecting anything in return, be selfless and keep praying to God for the grace to help you show love to those who really do not deserve it.  


This planet can do with some love, “Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own home. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor . . . Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting.” ― Mother Teresa

Have a lovely weekend
With so much love,
LadyMay

9 comments:

  1. Faith Okeke3/22/2013

    Tis LadyMay at it again#smile#. Tnx dear, dis is tot provoking n an encouragement as well. God bless.

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  2. hmmm, this is wonderful.

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  3. Anonymous3/23/2013

    Nice one dear,keep up the good work

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  4. Anonymous3/23/2013

    Me liking this blog. this the beginning a of a great book. go lady May.

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  5. Thank you everyone for stopping by and reading. God bless you all

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  6. LadyMay, U've said it all #clapping. Nice one dear, more grace hun :-)

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  7. Well done. Nice write up

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  8. To ask whether does true love exist is to ask whether god exists. Some people believe regardless of what others say that they have found, or will find true love. Some have been badly burnt and refuse to even consider the concept of true love, or even god. Its a very personal opinion and subjective but I do believe in true love even if I am not a religious person myself. Thanks for the article, keep up the good work.

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  9. yes! real deep love still exist but rare nowadays. first of all, as long as God exists, real deep love still exist. taking it from the human or relationship angle, you can still find true unconditional love among men and women. however in most cases it is hard to identify.

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